Is this marriage fraud, and what can I do about it?
I was living with my girlfriend at the time, she said that she wanted to marry someone in the military, who she had never met in person, only online (only to have a legal document, for extra benefits on both sides....blah blah blah) anyway, we had been together for a year and a half, i moved away from family and friends just to be with her, worked two jobs so i could give her extra money to spend (10 hour night shifts sunday through wednesday and 8 hours a day at my other job monday through friday...sunday through wednesday was 18 hours per day total at least) and she said that if i didnt let her marry this person then she would leave me and that would have screwed me over because i was far from family and had no where to go, plus, i really wanted to stay with her. So she went and did the documentation and all that, was legally married. Came back to our house and continued to live with me for several months (We were sexually active before and after she was married to someone else) anyway, he wouldnt quit trying to convince her that i was not the person for her and slowly ruined our relationship because i couldnt stand that she let him say all of these hurtful things about me. We eventually broke up after constant arguing over the matter and i was forced to move away and work my butt off to make a living.... as a 19 year old kid paying rent and living on my own.... worst couple months of my life. He was shipped out to South Korea and they are both gaining benefits while she is still "cheating" on him, and on top of all this she has porn videos on the internet, and she is a cam girl basically full time. I am wondering if there is anyway to gain reparations for all of this BS and end their marriage. It has brought great hardship to me and i have several witnesses and proof that she never lived with him the whole time, she lived with me until she moved in with her sister in a different state. Someone please help me out here, If it is possible to take legal action and get payment for all of the things they have put me through, i would like to know as soon as possible. The husband in question is 29 years old, and told my 19 year old girlfriend that he tried to get a previous gf of his to go through with this same exact thing. Why did all of this have to happen to me? She wasnt entirely using me, as everyone knows, duh i was a moron and let things slide, but only because i felt there was still hope to stay with her. We supported each other throughout our stay together, so i cant say it was "using." I just dont feel it is right for her to pull this off when i warned her about marriage fraud, and they both said it wouldnt be more than a slap on the wrist. Our aruements were always fueled by her "husband." He would always try and convince her to become his real wife and leave me. During our relationship i wanted to report marriage fraud during our relationship but i had no idea how, and i still don't, i am not to concerned with getting money back, i just want to see that someone with his sort of morality is punished legally for committing such an unjust act. once again, i know i was an idiot, but everyone here has to understand there is more to it than that. I want to live independently without parental help, therefor i was scared to go back under thei As for anyone thinking that she didn't lie to me, she kept it from me, and lied about things they conversed about, lied about her cheating, and whenever she broke promises to me she said deal with it, all of this happened within a couple months, so i did get out because i knew i couldnt take it anymore, once again, i dont want money, but i would love to see him discharged, and to see her have to pay back the government for the money that was basically stolen, i pay taxes too you know Another thing, they never even slept together, he watches her on cam from korea, and the married only to get BAH from the military, and planned to end the marriage when he returns, it sounds like fraud to me. It isn't a legal marriage, i just dont know how to get in contact with a military law enforcement that deals with this type of fraud.
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It all happened to you because YOU ARE AN IDIOT. Why did you stay with her? HELLO MCFLY she MARRIED another man. Time to pack up and move on, she was USING YOU the entire time. Oh I worked my butt off so that she could have more money? She married another guy? She said she'd leave me if I didn't let her? Seriously reread this and don't think about it being YOU and you'll realize how stupid you were being. OK fine thinking you are in love makes people do stupid things, but in the end she left you anyway. All you did was screw yourself over, and NOW you are holding it against her. Let her be with that loser. Chalk it up to stupid mistake and MOVE ON.
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dude bail now go back home , take all your stuff and leave her she aint worth it
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Sounds like marriage fraud to me. But that's not going to help you one little bit. If both of them are convicted of something, that's not going to compensate you for anything. Witnesses about her whereabouts won't help you. If they lied on documents for the military, that's between them and the military. OK, if you find an attorney who'll sue her for some sort of "emotional damage," you can try. but I think it'll cost you more for the attorney than you'll get from a girl whose income is limited. Listen to others- get out! She used you. That's enough. Never mind the details of what your two jobs' hours were, or what she said on the pillow. Time to get away.
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google "marriage fraud reporting"
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"Seriously reread this and don't think about it being YOU and you'll realize how stupid you were being." Hahahahaha!! Wise Words!! Although it does sound like marriage fraud, you would not benefit from it. Just get out and Thank God this girl will be someone else's problem. You obviously let all this happen, so consider it a lesson you really needed to learn. Stop thinking of yourself as a victim. In fact, the only thing you didn't write that this girl did was lie to YOU.... so can you really blame her?
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I really doubt if you will ever find someone "official" who will bother to take your accusations of criminal fraud seriously, but say you did. Think about how the couple would respond to questions based on accusations from a heart broken 20 year old ex-boyfriend. Even if every word you said was the truth they would still make you look like a fool. They are married. It may be an unconventional marriage,but in the eyes of the law, it's just another half-ass crazy marriage. Even if the benefits were the reason they married, there has been no crime committed. They have slept together, presented themselves to others as married--- they are legally, lawfully, awfully married. Some battles can't be won, and this is one of them. She screwed you over and it hurt a lot, I know. But it's time to stop putting yourself through this, you're only causing yourself more pain and distress. Let it go. Just let them go. Instead of focusing on how to make them miserable, put that energy into finding ways to make yourself happy.
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Why does this happen to you? Because you let it happen. You let this lying, cheating webcam girl walk all over you. I don't feel sorry for you.
