How dose an army wife get over her ex husband who is stationed in South Korea?
I'm an ex army wife about to get a divorce cause my husband wants to end the relationship. hes stationed south Korea by the way. I just hate him for the the stuff he put me through cause at first he wouldn't tell me why and i was blaming myself thinking it was something i did. Which i didn't cause ive always been faithful and supportive. And he explained to me that it was because the military changed him and i get that. But i was looking at his myspace and he had a lot of pictures taken with Asian whores and stuff and treating me like shit with all his mind games. So i said a bunch of horrible things to him me being all hormonal cause I just had a daughter six moths ago and i hate him for putting me through all this stuff. I got him in trouble cause he wouldn't send money home and now we just hate each other. I just want to know how to stop thinking of him wasting my energy hating him and all those Asian bitches cause i want to move on. And now he has this hill billy chick sending him stupid comments. I erased my myspace but i got his url memorized and i get curious to see his mood i try to keep busy and im training real hard to join the air force but he stops me from focusing cause hes always on my mind i tried counseling it doesn't help and hating him makes things worse any advice? Didn't state the obvious Counseling I tried it doesn't work I erased my myspace already and i don't talk to him real answers please. Oh and he wants to take my daughter away to because i want to go back to Job corps and continue my education and be happy on my own just frustrated is all. Cause I cant find a job and im stuck at home with the baby by myself but im studying for the asvab and doing the exercises so i can pass basic training. And i'm not planning to join untill next year i'm just preparing myself.
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1 :
for one stop stalking him on myspace. how in the world do you expect to get over him if you keep bringing him up? so that part is your fault. and another thing, you two have a baby together, so hes forever tied in your life, there's no getting rid of him. your primary goal should be on your child now. why devote all your time to a guy who wasn't faithful to you at all. he is not worth your time or energy.
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Hon, it will take time to get over the anger. He has betrayed you and that is a hard feeling to let go of. He cannot take your child if you are already providing a good/safe/loving home for her. I would go ahead and put a restraining order out to prevent anyone from picking her up from daycare or anywhere until after custody has been established. He is also playing a mind game with you cause that is the button he can still push to hurt you. He does not want her or he would have already tried to get her. I assume he has not tried. Don't reply to any of those comments. Let what he says roll off your back. He is lashing out at you. Let him go screw everyone he wants and pray his "thang" falls off from all the STD's. Isn't that what he deserves? Well, if he keeps on going like he is, that is exactly what will happen. You just need to focus on the here and now. Not the overthere and whoever. You have the best thing going for you right now and that is your daughter. Wrap your world around her and keep that bond strong. I was just as angry as you are when I got my divorce. Yes, I remarried soon after to a wonderful man, but that did not get rid of my anger. He helped me and was patient. What got me over was time. It has been more than a year now on my divorce and I can still say I get angry from time to time, but those times are fewer and fewer. My life is my new family and they keep me busy. Hang in there, kiddo. You will eventually be just great. Just focus on what lies ahead.
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Woah! Tell that man that he better take responsibility and stay with you for the sake of the child or get the hell away from you and the child and find yourself a man who is going to always be there! Man, I hate men like that! My friend is going through something similar btw. :/ I understand how it can be. But be assertive and dont let this man walk all over you.
