Which is cheaper? Transfering $ from...or...?
I live in South Korea and I'll be coming home in a few months. Which is cheaper, transfering the money from my bank account here to my account in the states OR taking it all out here and transfering the money at the airport from Korean Won to USD's? It's roughly about $30 to make a transfer under 5k from here to there. Thanks ahead of time!
Personal Finance - 1 Answers
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Look on the internet and contact a currency exchange company - they will give you advise on the cheapest way to transfer cash.
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Thursday, February 14, 2013
I want to marry this girl. She wants a divorce from a horrible man, it was forced. what can i do?
I want to marry this girl. She wants a divorce from a horrible man, it was forced. what can i do?
I met this girl in south korea, i am still currently stationed here. Never ever thought i would ever get married always been doing my job at best in the military. I have been seeing this girl for awhile and i know she is married to a forced marriage that happened to her awhile back. She is from the phillipines and how does it work for divorces, if the man doesnt want it and just wants to collect money she makes while he sits at home, i love this girl very dearly and im willing to do whatever it takes to have her in my life. I dont know where to start. she is willing to stay with me here in south korea, and im willing to give my contract for another year here to help her. I wish it was easier for me to be with her.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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try to be best friends with her and hang out with her(only you two) and just hope and pray she divorces him and marries u
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if she loved the same way u do. then u two -- deserve to get married.
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Find someone else. This situation is too complicated and really isn't for you to figure out. If she wants to be with you, she'll find a way but I think you should save yourself the heartache and meet someone who isn't currently married. I would be suspicious of a marriage being "forced". My mother is from the Phillipines and said she has never heard of that.
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She lied to you. She's a pro looking for a quick trip to the states.
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I know in some countries if the man does not want to divorce the wife then it cant be done. its not as free as it is here in America. If it was a forced marriage chances are even if she did find a way to leave her life would be put in jeopardy and her family may disown her. Stay friends with her and be there for her as best you can . Don't cross the line though til you hear from her that she is willing and able to do what it takes to leave. It may be hard but it is the best and safest route to go.
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Maybe she just wants to become an American citizen so is setting you up
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You aren't the first American service guy to be taken in by the 'horrible husband please save me routine' if she wanted to leave she would have by now and disappeared into another city. She wants to go to America on a free ride get counseling from your CO before you become a victim! There are plenty of nice girls at home that need a nice guy to marry please think .. you have to trust first! Please do yourself a great favor ask for a transfer!
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Put the brakes on and think about this. You are dating a CHEATER, if this woman truly wanted out of her marriage she would have found a way. If she is willing to cheat on her present husband, what makes you think she is going to change for you? She has played upon your loneliness, sympathy and generosity. My honest opinion is she is using you, I might be completely off, but that is what my gut instinct is telling me.
I met this girl in south korea, i am still currently stationed here. Never ever thought i would ever get married always been doing my job at best in the military. I have been seeing this girl for awhile and i know she is married to a forced marriage that happened to her awhile back. She is from the phillipines and how does it work for divorces, if the man doesnt want it and just wants to collect money she makes while he sits at home, i love this girl very dearly and im willing to do whatever it takes to have her in my life. I dont know where to start. she is willing to stay with me here in south korea, and im willing to give my contract for another year here to help her. I wish it was easier for me to be with her.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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try to be best friends with her and hang out with her(only you two) and just hope and pray she divorces him and marries u
2 :
if she loved the same way u do. then u two -- deserve to get married.
3 :
Find someone else. This situation is too complicated and really isn't for you to figure out. If she wants to be with you, she'll find a way but I think you should save yourself the heartache and meet someone who isn't currently married. I would be suspicious of a marriage being "forced". My mother is from the Phillipines and said she has never heard of that.
4 :
She lied to you. She's a pro looking for a quick trip to the states.
5 :
I know in some countries if the man does not want to divorce the wife then it cant be done. its not as free as it is here in America. If it was a forced marriage chances are even if she did find a way to leave her life would be put in jeopardy and her family may disown her. Stay friends with her and be there for her as best you can . Don't cross the line though til you hear from her that she is willing and able to do what it takes to leave. It may be hard but it is the best and safest route to go.
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Maybe she just wants to become an American citizen so is setting you up
7 :
You aren't the first American service guy to be taken in by the 'horrible husband please save me routine' if she wanted to leave she would have by now and disappeared into another city. She wants to go to America on a free ride get counseling from your CO before you become a victim! There are plenty of nice girls at home that need a nice guy to marry please think .. you have to trust first! Please do yourself a great favor ask for a transfer!
8 :
Put the brakes on and think about this. You are dating a CHEATER, if this woman truly wanted out of her marriage she would have found a way. If she is willing to cheat on her present husband, what makes you think she is going to change for you? She has played upon your loneliness, sympathy and generosity. My honest opinion is she is using you, I might be completely off, but that is what my gut instinct is telling me.
Thursday, February 7, 2013
I need some assistance please?
I need some assistance please?
I am currently overseas in South Korea right now and I have had no success in accessing the webpage that I make my car payment on. I always get the message,"page not found". The page I am trying to access is www.Americredit.com. Is there anyway to bypass the page not found message and gain access to the page? It is accessible in the US,but not here. I just want to be able to pay my car note without having to call and paying more money to pay over the phone. Is there anything that I can do to be able to access it? Any help would be appreciated,thanks!
Other - Internet - 1 Answers
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You might try a proxy server in the U.S. and locate that site from the proxy server. There are frequent posts here for proxy servers so if you do a search on the Yahoo Answer page, I'm sure you'll find one. You might also look for a free DNS server A DNS server is the one that does the lookup to find the website. The one you're connected to isn't finding it. A list of free servers is at http://www.dnsserverlist.org/ There is also http://www.opendns.com/ My inference is that you're in the military. Stay safe.
I am currently overseas in South Korea right now and I have had no success in accessing the webpage that I make my car payment on. I always get the message,"page not found". The page I am trying to access is www.Americredit.com. Is there anyway to bypass the page not found message and gain access to the page? It is accessible in the US,but not here. I just want to be able to pay my car note without having to call and paying more money to pay over the phone. Is there anything that I can do to be able to access it? Any help would be appreciated,thanks!
Other - Internet - 1 Answers
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You might try a proxy server in the U.S. and locate that site from the proxy server. There are frequent posts here for proxy servers so if you do a search on the Yahoo Answer page, I'm sure you'll find one. You might also look for a free DNS server A DNS server is the one that does the lookup to find the website. The one you're connected to isn't finding it. A list of free servers is at http://www.dnsserverlist.org/ There is also http://www.opendns.com/ My inference is that you're in the military. Stay safe.
Friday, February 1, 2013
How do you cope with adoption?
How do you cope with adoption?
I have one more year to go until I finally get to "search" for my biological family in South Korea. Being 17....this is huge. No amount of money, fortune, or material items could make me not want to go search...but my feelings are so conflicted. Why did my mother (as far as i know, she was the only one there, my dad probably knocked her up and then split or some messed up crap like that) give me up. I mean, i had a cleft lip and palate....but was the condition truly that bad that it was worth giving up your child? Should I feel extreme resentment towards her? Should i hate her in a way? Should i expect her to not love me if i do find her? Should i feel rejected? What if she's dead? What if she never wanted me in the first place? What if all that my parents today told me was a lie? I'm not quite sure how to approach this....the answer is just not cut and dry as others seem to say. I love my family, right now, they are well...my family....but at the same time, they're not. My mom did not give birth to me. My dad did not contribute to my genetic make up....They are not my "family". I guess the main question is, what should i be feeling right now. I have one year left until my graduation present...the big search.........should i even expect my mother to be alive?...
Adoption - 6 Answers
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If I were you I'd try to be close with my "parents" and my mother, all three of them. Your guardians still LOVE you very much, enough for them to take care of you, but that's all that should matter. If it's really that important to you, you should go and see your mom, but I think that would just make you more depressed.
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You are experiencing a range of feelings common to adoptees. The first answer stating that your adoptive family are all that should matter is wrong, very wrong. I would recommend you read Nancy Verrier the Primal Wound and Coming Home to Self. In these book much of the range of emotions experienced by adoptees and the reasons why we feel these things is explained. Much as you love your adoptive family you suffered great loss. Can you discusss any of this with adoptive family? If not then an adoption councellor will be able to help.
3 :
How you are feeling is perfectly normal. The only people who can give you the answers you want are your parents. You need to find them so you find out the truth and be prepared for all scenarioss. My son grew up believing I didn't want him and that I wanted him but the truth is I did want to raise him. I always thought about him. Your mother may have chosen adoption or she may have felt pressue to surrender you but onlt she can answer your questions.
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It is perfectly normal to feel all of this. As for your birth mom, you will have to wait and hear what she has to say. I know in some countries cleft palates are seen very negatively. She may think that you were "deformed" because of her "sin." When I was in the military, I went to South Korea many times. It is a deeply conservative country. It is Buddhist and Buddhist see disabilities as evidence of bad deeds in past lives.(Karma). The more educated Buddhist reject this and tweak the religion to show compassion towards those who are disabled, but the idea of karma still runs deep in this culture. As for her being alive, it is very possible. The average life span of a woman in South Korea is almost 80 which is very close to what one would expect here in the U.S. As far as what you should do for the next year, talk to your parents. Get as much information as you can about your adoption. Did they go to South Korea and get you? Ask them about the part of the country that they were at? Was it industrial? Was it rural? Was it Seoul? Was it near a military base or port? Also, research the culture? The good and the bad. What do you look like? That should give you a good idea of what you might find. Do you look 100% Asian or do you like as if you are mixed with white or black? If so, your bio father might have been an American serviceman. If you have black blood in you, you are considered "burnt rice" which is a really horrible racial epithet that children of black US servicemen or really dark Asians are called. Also, learn Korean as much as you can. This is why you should talk to your parents about the area you were adopted from. Different areas have different slang/dialects and if you can learn to speak the lingo from that area, you will probably have more luck when talking to the locals. Plus, it is a very good chance that your birth mother won't know English so unless you always want an interpreter translating, you should learn to speak the language as much as possible. One last thing, Asians as a general rule, are very quiet. They aren't like American who let it all hang out and who believe in sharing our feelings and who talk about things that should probably not be talked about in public. So, if your mother is very stoic and quiet and doesn't cry, it doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. (It might but it also might not) That is just a cultural difference. Given how patriarchal and how important the family name is in Korea, there may be a part of her that is happy to see you but she may also be profoundly embarrassed. Lastly, before you go off on your quest, you might want to write to the adoption agency and ask them if they know where your mother is and does she want to be contacted? If nothing else, they may be able to have you two meet in private. I think you should not expect to meet the family. At least, not the first time. Again, it goes back to family honor and the belief that illegitimate children are shameful. That would be a lot to expect. So, just try for a meeting. Good Luck.
5 :
Everything you're feeling is entirely normal, so please don't feel alone. While you're waiting to begin your search, maybe you'd like to take a look at some of the websites and forums for adult adoptees? I don't use them much but www.adultadoptees.org and www.adoption.com/forums will enable you to contact others in a similar situation. Sometimes it helps to chat with people entirely independent of your own family. Be prepared that your search may take a very long time, even more so as it was an international adoption. It will be very easy for the search to take over your life, potentially for years - try to make sure you're getting on with living your life at the same time! Searching is frustration, hope, disappointment, dead ends, false leads, stubbornness and patience, patience, patience. One thing I would say is that a cleft palate can be a potential death sentence to a baby if untreated - depending on severity it could affect feeding from birth. If your mother didn't have the money to pay for it to be corrected, she may have had no choice but to give you up to save your life. On the other hand, she may have had other reasons for surrendering you - only she will be able to explain. Try to keep an open mind. All the very best with your search - I hope all of your questions are answered in time :)
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I would guess if your mother lives in South Korea, she is probably alive. As for how you should feel -hon, there is no one in the world that can tell you how to feel. In my humble opinion, family is what you make it. I'm not biologically related to my husband (thankfully! : ) but he is my best friend, my family and the love of my life. Why on earth should biology matter a bit in whether or not you are someones "family"? It is only with children that we get all weird and think our genes somehow matter. I'm an adoptee who did find her biological mother. She's nice enough, but she's not my mother in the sense that the mom who raised me is my mother. She definitely favors my younger biological sister over me. When my biological sister was mad at me a few years ago, my biological mother totally ignored my birthday. My (adoptive) parents would never do that. Who, then, is my "family"? I'm also an adoptive mom. I feel *blessed* to have our (adoptive) daughter as part of our family. She had a nightmare of a life with her biological family before she became part of our family. Again, who is her "family"? The ones who share her DNA or the ones who love and care for her? I wish you well in your search. No matter if your biological mother welcomes you with open arms or turns her back, it has *nothing* to do with who you are and your value a person made in the image of God. Wishing you well.
I have one more year to go until I finally get to "search" for my biological family in South Korea. Being 17....this is huge. No amount of money, fortune, or material items could make me not want to go search...but my feelings are so conflicted. Why did my mother (as far as i know, she was the only one there, my dad probably knocked her up and then split or some messed up crap like that) give me up. I mean, i had a cleft lip and palate....but was the condition truly that bad that it was worth giving up your child? Should I feel extreme resentment towards her? Should i hate her in a way? Should i expect her to not love me if i do find her? Should i feel rejected? What if she's dead? What if she never wanted me in the first place? What if all that my parents today told me was a lie? I'm not quite sure how to approach this....the answer is just not cut and dry as others seem to say. I love my family, right now, they are well...my family....but at the same time, they're not. My mom did not give birth to me. My dad did not contribute to my genetic make up....They are not my "family". I guess the main question is, what should i be feeling right now. I have one year left until my graduation present...the big search.........should i even expect my mother to be alive?...
Adoption - 6 Answers
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1 :
If I were you I'd try to be close with my "parents" and my mother, all three of them. Your guardians still LOVE you very much, enough for them to take care of you, but that's all that should matter. If it's really that important to you, you should go and see your mom, but I think that would just make you more depressed.
2 :
You are experiencing a range of feelings common to adoptees. The first answer stating that your adoptive family are all that should matter is wrong, very wrong. I would recommend you read Nancy Verrier the Primal Wound and Coming Home to Self. In these book much of the range of emotions experienced by adoptees and the reasons why we feel these things is explained. Much as you love your adoptive family you suffered great loss. Can you discusss any of this with adoptive family? If not then an adoption councellor will be able to help.
3 :
How you are feeling is perfectly normal. The only people who can give you the answers you want are your parents. You need to find them so you find out the truth and be prepared for all scenarioss. My son grew up believing I didn't want him and that I wanted him but the truth is I did want to raise him. I always thought about him. Your mother may have chosen adoption or she may have felt pressue to surrender you but onlt she can answer your questions.
4 :
It is perfectly normal to feel all of this. As for your birth mom, you will have to wait and hear what she has to say. I know in some countries cleft palates are seen very negatively. She may think that you were "deformed" because of her "sin." When I was in the military, I went to South Korea many times. It is a deeply conservative country. It is Buddhist and Buddhist see disabilities as evidence of bad deeds in past lives.(Karma). The more educated Buddhist reject this and tweak the religion to show compassion towards those who are disabled, but the idea of karma still runs deep in this culture. As for her being alive, it is very possible. The average life span of a woman in South Korea is almost 80 which is very close to what one would expect here in the U.S. As far as what you should do for the next year, talk to your parents. Get as much information as you can about your adoption. Did they go to South Korea and get you? Ask them about the part of the country that they were at? Was it industrial? Was it rural? Was it Seoul? Was it near a military base or port? Also, research the culture? The good and the bad. What do you look like? That should give you a good idea of what you might find. Do you look 100% Asian or do you like as if you are mixed with white or black? If so, your bio father might have been an American serviceman. If you have black blood in you, you are considered "burnt rice" which is a really horrible racial epithet that children of black US servicemen or really dark Asians are called. Also, learn Korean as much as you can. This is why you should talk to your parents about the area you were adopted from. Different areas have different slang/dialects and if you can learn to speak the lingo from that area, you will probably have more luck when talking to the locals. Plus, it is a very good chance that your birth mother won't know English so unless you always want an interpreter translating, you should learn to speak the language as much as possible. One last thing, Asians as a general rule, are very quiet. They aren't like American who let it all hang out and who believe in sharing our feelings and who talk about things that should probably not be talked about in public. So, if your mother is very stoic and quiet and doesn't cry, it doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. (It might but it also might not) That is just a cultural difference. Given how patriarchal and how important the family name is in Korea, there may be a part of her that is happy to see you but she may also be profoundly embarrassed. Lastly, before you go off on your quest, you might want to write to the adoption agency and ask them if they know where your mother is and does she want to be contacted? If nothing else, they may be able to have you two meet in private. I think you should not expect to meet the family. At least, not the first time. Again, it goes back to family honor and the belief that illegitimate children are shameful. That would be a lot to expect. So, just try for a meeting. Good Luck.
5 :
Everything you're feeling is entirely normal, so please don't feel alone. While you're waiting to begin your search, maybe you'd like to take a look at some of the websites and forums for adult adoptees? I don't use them much but www.adultadoptees.org and www.adoption.com/forums will enable you to contact others in a similar situation. Sometimes it helps to chat with people entirely independent of your own family. Be prepared that your search may take a very long time, even more so as it was an international adoption. It will be very easy for the search to take over your life, potentially for years - try to make sure you're getting on with living your life at the same time! Searching is frustration, hope, disappointment, dead ends, false leads, stubbornness and patience, patience, patience. One thing I would say is that a cleft palate can be a potential death sentence to a baby if untreated - depending on severity it could affect feeding from birth. If your mother didn't have the money to pay for it to be corrected, she may have had no choice but to give you up to save your life. On the other hand, she may have had other reasons for surrendering you - only she will be able to explain. Try to keep an open mind. All the very best with your search - I hope all of your questions are answered in time :)
6 :
I would guess if your mother lives in South Korea, she is probably alive. As for how you should feel -hon, there is no one in the world that can tell you how to feel. In my humble opinion, family is what you make it. I'm not biologically related to my husband (thankfully! : ) but he is my best friend, my family and the love of my life. Why on earth should biology matter a bit in whether or not you are someones "family"? It is only with children that we get all weird and think our genes somehow matter. I'm an adoptee who did find her biological mother. She's nice enough, but she's not my mother in the sense that the mom who raised me is my mother. She definitely favors my younger biological sister over me. When my biological sister was mad at me a few years ago, my biological mother totally ignored my birthday. My (adoptive) parents would never do that. Who, then, is my "family"? I'm also an adoptive mom. I feel *blessed* to have our (adoptive) daughter as part of our family. She had a nightmare of a life with her biological family before she became part of our family. Again, who is her "family"? The ones who share her DNA or the ones who love and care for her? I wish you well in your search. No matter if your biological mother welcomes you with open arms or turns her back, it has *nothing* to do with who you are and your value a person made in the image of God. Wishing you well.
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